In “Are Women Addicted to Beauty,” Tom Matlack at The Good Men Project proffers that ladies spend “endless time on things that to most men seem insane” and this overindulgence in high heels, elaborate gowns and expensive handbags is an obsession increasingly divorced from any male construct of beauty.
“Men don’t care about the stuff over which women obsess. There’s a disconnect. And while the connection between sexual exploitation and obsession with beauty is obvious, I can’t really raise a hand on behalf of men for all that has become a female addiction to beauty. I think there is certainly some part that women are doing to themselves in which we really have no involvement.”
So, if the endless splurging on Birkin bags, Manolo’s and wildly impractical runway-esque attire has very little to do with men (which I concede, it probably does on the surface), perhaps it has much more to do with a society obsessed with things? It is hard to disregard the influence social constructs of sexuality have on women and how a barrage of sexually exploitive material may inform our purchases, but the current obsession with acquiring things; homes, cars, clothes, shoes, etc. seems a very large part of this “addiction” as opposed to just beauty. If “beauty” is just one more item on the shelf, in a commodity-driven environment how do we minimize the trend of buying beauty?
Ladies, are you obsessed with fashion, does it play any part in your relationship? Do you think you’ve been influenced the fashion industry’s images and trends separate from any male influence? Are you, like Tom suggests, “addicted to beauty?”